I am the most unlikely blogger you could hope to meet. I have never had the slightest desire to Blog!
Nor have I ever wanted to write a book or even a short story. The very thought of producing regular content has always filled me with horror. It conjured up memories of school and the big black clouds which used to hover over me and spoil my week (and every waking moment) as the dreaded day for handing in my essays approached.
I have always been in awe of journalists and the disciplined organized mindset it must take to earn a living this way. BUT, at the same time I felt incredibly grateful I did not need to deal with the pressure of meeting the same kind of deadline.
BUT they say that “only idiots never change their minds” .. so I have a confession to make; much to my own surprise I have fallen in love with blogging.
Sometimes, however, the most practical decisions have unbelievably far-reaching consequences. The minute I decided to start a blog to let my clients know I was now available for counselling online, my life changed.
I STEPPED OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE AND CAME FACE TO FACE WITH MYSELF.
I have often heard the expression: “When the student is ready, the teacher appears”. This was certainly true in my case, and boy did I have a lot to learn!
I STILL MARVEL AT HOW I HAVE SWUNG FROM ONE EXTREME TO THE OTHER IN SO SHORT A TIME.
Moi, the lady who loved to lunch, or meet girlfriends for coffee nearly every day ….. is now perfectly and blissfully happy to spend her days at home writing. My nearest and dearest are surprised. I am astonished!
I have a burning desire to locate them and perhaps one day form our own special group. A place in which we can go to work smashing the often invisible glass ceilings of ageism and help, cheer, and encourage each other to start online businesses in different fields as well as create new online products. The sky’s the limit. But I am jumping ahead of myself.
The minute I ventured onto the internet, I became entranced and fascinated by stories of all the other successful bloggers. The very first of these was a wonderful young french blogger called Garance Doré. She is a star in the blogosphere and has reached such dizzy height in the fashion world that she is almost like royalty. Her story is the stuff fairy tales are made of. From an aspiring young artist in Corsica, she is now the uncrowned princess of all the fashion shows from Paris to New York.
She has her own podcasts, she interviews celebrities, writes an incredibly successful blog, brands court her, and she now has many people working for her. What is even more inspiring is that she’s adorable and charismatic, fame has not changed her. BUT her trajectory illustrates how the internet can change people’s lives.
When I look back I hold Garance Doré (a “Nom de Plume” she chose for herself) responsible for giving me the blogging bug. Before I realized what was happening I was hooked! I had fallen in love.
The second person to seal my fate is one of the most endearing lovely and lovable of the mommy bloggers: Suzi Whitford of “Suzi start a mom blog”. Her contagious and uplifting enthusiasm as she shares her knowledge via video with one or two, and recently 3 babies clambering all over her, just makes one feels she is a friend. She is undoubtedly the person who got me thinking of starting a blog for older mommies like me.
She also produces absolutely great online courses tailor-made for newbies like me. Which I have bought and highly recommend.
So it is I have become a Groupie. My other idols are Melyssa Griffins, Rosemarie Groner, Ruth Soukup, Create and Go, Tasha a Designer trapped in a Lawyer’s Body, Meera Kothand, Abby just a girl and her blog. The list gets longer and longer.
These people have no idea how they much they have inspired me. Many of them also have truly great courses which are tremendously helpful. WARNING! The trick here is to be selective and chose the person or persons who you love and trust. The ones whose posts and Newsletters you cannot wait to open.
Friends often ask me if I get lonely. Nothing could be further from the truth!
Now my youngest daughters are away all day, I have the time and the freedom to blog. I actually look forward to the quiet tranquil hours when our home is empty and my daughters are at school.
As I sit at my desk surrounded only by things that are ” beautiful, useful, or remind me of people I love,” I am content, happy and excited. When I look out of the window, the whole world is just a click away.
The internet is like a magic carpet ready to whisk me away to anywhere I might wish to go and answer nearly any question I may have.
When my girls come home In the evening I am brimming over with renewed energy and exhilaration because I have travelled far, read and learned so much.
On the days I have a finished Post to show for my time spent blogging, I am glad. If I think my post might have made someone somewhere feel uplifted, happier, more hopeful, or have even answered a question they had been wondering about, then that is truly wonderful! Mission accomplished.
ALL THESE REASONS ARE WHY I CHANGED MY MIND AND FELL IN LOVE WITH BLOGGING! SERIOUSLY, WHAT OTHER OCCUPATION IS CAPABLE OF GIVING US BACK SO MUCH.
Now I have the bug I am like a woman possessed. Although my “Inner Entrepreneur” never showed the slightest sign of life before, She has suddenly woken up with a vengeance. I feel a deep and powerful yearning to create a successful business, and a strong need to prove to myself that I have what it takes to build financial and emotional security.
BUT BLOGGING IS ALSO A SERIOUS OCCUPATION. IT’S NOT ALL PLAIN SAILING OR FLOATING AROUND ON A PINK CLOUD.
It can be an exacting taskmaster and Mentor. It makes me look my faults, fears and weaknesses in the eye. It is teaching me to stop giving in to my flight or fight /avoidant tendencies when I am anxious or feel like burying my head in the sand.
Blogging stretches me because it makes me face things I would sometimes rather not address head-on.
It has forced me to work on character traits and aspects of myself that I am not proud of.
If I want my blog to be a good blog, and I do, it is 100% my responsibility. The buck stops with me.
Blogging has made me take action on habits I have been secretly embarrassed about.
BLOGGING IS KIND BUT TOUGH THERAPIST.
If you really take it seriously and commit to giving it your best, it is like having your own private personal coach 24/7. Blogging is the way into our unconscious.
It’s a gentle but extremely effective habit changer. In fact, I have come to think of blogging as a “School for Change”.
It is not for the faint-hearted because it brings you face to face with yourself and does not let you hide or make excuses. The buck stops with you. “If it’s to be it is TRULY up to me “
Like all good coaches, Blogging encourages you to persevere, keep trying, not give up and improve.
There are too many positive benefits attached to Blogging for me to include them all, but here are some of the ones I find most beneficial.
Blogging exercises your brain:
Because of all the writing and learning, it provides much-needed exercise for our Neurons. Keeping the body fit requires physical exercise. The mind needs stimulation and activity as well. You will be amazed by how much better your memory becomes as a result of participating in the mental gymnastics provided by this new activity.
Blogging teaches you to become a champion Researcher.
Not only does this prove extremely interesting, you will get better and better at finding the best ways to obtain new knowledge as you hunt down information and resources for your blog.
You will also discover global bloggers and experts who will give you the insights and information you need to provide ongoing value to your own readers.
Blogging is often the beginning of deep and lasting friendships.
As you start to connect and get noticed, people will want to connect with you. Blogging is pure Magic as far as meeting people you would never have come across in a million years.
Without moving from home, you can travel the world and make friends everywhere. Sometimes these friendships morph into something incredibly special.
I find myself “tightening up” my writing, getting rid of adverbs, and “Killing my Darlings” as I strive for clarity and simplicity.
Blogging teaches us to be “Trustworthy” and to follow through…
When you publicly commit to doing something on the Internet, it is one hell of an incentive to do what you say you will. This, in turn, breeds SELF-CONFIDENCE because it fills us with quiet satisfaction in our ability to keep our word.
BLOGGING FORCES US TO OVERCOME SELF-LIMITING NEGATIVE BELIEFS, MAKE CHOICES AND TAKE ACTION.
As Jim ROHN, one of my all-time favourite motivational speakers said so wisely :
“Before you can work on your business (or blog), you must first work on yourself.”
He added: “ Do not wish things were easier, wish you were better”.
I do wish I was better and this is exciting! Blogging has made me want to grow. I feel the need to become more knowledgeable, and to improve on all fronts.
Blogging has ignited a calm slow burning ambition to finally become the kind of person I have secretly always wanted to be.