STARTING A BLOG HAS SHONE A LIGHT ON CERTAIN PROBLEMS I HAD NEVER CONSIDERED A HANDICAP OR TAKEN SERIOUSLY.
I realized a many years ago that I have mild form of ADHD which tends to kick in when I get stressed, it was just something I lived with. If I ever did mention it to people 9 times out of 10 they treated it as a joke. So I learned to “let it go”.
Now Looking back, it seems strange to realize that although life had been giving me clues as far back as I can remember, I never connected the difficulties which made me feel stupid, incompetent and inefficient to ADHD. Nor did I ever connect my lack of time management and to it either.
I do definitely still remember vividly how lost and lonely I used to feel at school and later at University. As if I had lost or never quite found the plot and was not on the same page as everyone else.
MANY YEARS LATER WHEN MY YOUNGEST DAUGHTER STARTED GETTING INTO TROUBLE IN PRIMARY SCHOOL I KNEW IMMEDIATELY WHAT THE PROBLEM WAS.
It takes one to know one. Her absent-mindedness forgetfulness and seeming inability to finish an action, remember her books, or give in her homework on time had nothing to do with being lazy or naughty. The same went for her tendency to act first and think later which made her as unpopular with her teacher, as with the other children in her class.
She was and still is so full of sweetness generosity and kindness it would break my heart to see her eyes fill with tears when she was scolded or not invited to birthday parties.
I often liken blogging to having my own Private Therapist on call 24/7. One of the greatest benefits is how helpful it has been in highlighting the extent to which Attention Deficit can affect my days.
BEFORE STARTING A BLOG, I NEVER REALIZE HOW STRONGLY ADHD IMPACTS AND INFLUENCES MY ACTIONS AND THE WAY IN WHICH I USE AND MANAGE TIME.
But the positive news is that I have not been left “hanging “ with the problem. Blogging also has given me tailor-made Solutions for dealing with ADHD.
Because blogging is about Focus, Structure and Advance Planning it is the ideal tool for taming attention deficit. Automating, strategic planning, having schedules and having to take consistent persistent action are priceless tools for taming ADHD.
The self-discipline required to run a successful blog brings order and cal me to my sometimes topsy-turvy world. I take pride in taming the chaos.
IF YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH BLOGGING, YOU WILL FIND YOURSELF WANTING TO DO THINGS PROPERLY.
This, in turn, will make you wish to automate and put “systems” in place. You will stop feeling ineffective, or stupid and unreliable. Once you have put these new habits in place, your brain will start to process information in a more organized way. For someone with ADHD tendencies, this is a very big deal and a pretty wonderful improvement.
Perhaps those among you who are sometimes a little undisciplined or scatterbrained will understand exactly what I am talking about when I say that blogging provides me with a Framework which makes me feel SAFE.
Ever since I was a teenager, I have been in awe of people who are disciplined and highly organized. As an undiagnosed attention deficit sufferer, I used to sit quietly and observe classmates who seemed to do things in a methodical, tidy way. Their homework was finished, the lessons learned. They never forgot anything and could be trusted to follow through and do things in advance.
I yearned to be like them. Thanks to blogging this is starting to happen.
And it’s wonderful, exciting, and empowering …..!!!